Sunday, August 6, 2017

2,500 views...Almost there

Hey there

This post is just a huge THANK YOU to all my lovely readers.
The City Girl is almost going to hit 2,500 views and I promise to put up posts on any of your suggestions as soon as the target is achieved!

Guest posts are gonna be put up here from amateur and experienced bloggers alike from the next week. (contact via profile if you're a writer)
Stay tuned for more and THANKS again. :D

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xoxo

Sunday, July 23, 2017

How to Groom a Groom Classes (Part1)

Ethics classes at Loreto college, in the third year, are different.

Quite... different...

As a young lady, the extent of your education or skill set should not depend upon how well you can cook "butter chicken" or how nicely you drape your saree.

To be honest, I can't do either very well.

But the bottom line is that I'm willing to learn all of that, for my sake and not for the purpose of bagging the next best groom on an online match-making website.

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Gender based qualifications required for marriage:

Sister (our principal), started class by reciting a few posts put up on a certain match making website.

Interestingly...the guy's resume would go something like this...."Tall banker/engineer/doctor/etc. earning --- of 40 years, coming from well educated Brahmin/Kshatriya family. Looking for fair complexioned, 5'4" or taller girl between ages 20-30, coming from good Brahmin family."

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And vice versa for the prospective bride's ad.
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Therefore...

In India or say most other places...the educational as well as economic qualifications of a prospective groom would matter most. 

While at the same time, the prospective bride should definitely be a great beauty disregarding her aptitude for a job or her annual/monthly income. 

When Sister asked what kind of a guy do you Young Ladies like?

Out of a class of about 260 final year students...we came up with only 3 physical characteristics, which were again subjective to different perspectives.

When it came to morals, beliefs, ideas and personality attributes though... My batch mates surprised even themselves.

We came up with a total of 53 personality related attributes and values.

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I asked the guys as well:


Men, of course, I don't want you to feel left out. 

So I tried asking a few male friends, what their kind of "woman" would be.

When they said "men are physical creatures", they weren't kidding.

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Apparently to notice a woman you first look for their physical aspects and then... If they feel she is fun to be around... will they make the effort to stay around.

Then again, in the long term, most guys believe their woman should have her own sense of individuality and independence.

In the end:

All our choices vary. No two people are the same. Men and women do differ though.

From the way they think about matters, to the way they operate. 

But, that does not mean you bring in your prejudices into the next level of a relationship.

Before you even consider getting married, you would have to establish yourself as an individual who can actually operate on your own.

Otherwise, what is the point of bringing in the extra responsibility that comes from being a couple.?

Ladies, you do not need an excuse to stay single. It's a choice, just like any other and you're the one who's ultimately going to have to make it.

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Monday, July 17, 2017

Flipping Off Your "Humanity Switch"




You may have come across people in daily life who have the ability to completely turn off their emotions for a while.

People belonging to the "Vampire Diaries" fandom, know exactly what I'm talking about.

What is this "Humanity Switch"?

Basically, according to Damon, you can flip your humanity on and off as and when you wish to. 

Switching it off lets a vampire detach his/her actions from any emotional judgment or guilt. This is the excuse these creatures have for killing ruthlessly and actually consuming a nutritious diet of blood, blood and just blood.

Can we do it?

Depends...

Upon whether you really want to, whether you have the will to flip it off or whether the situation demands such a thing of you.

You may have seen...

Some people are able to keep a check on their emotions for a certain time and then simply break down once they are ready to. 

Of course, this isn't a healthy way of dealing with problems...but then, what is?

Flipping off emotions, even if for a day or two can help detox. Just stop whatever you are doing. 
That involves 
  • thinking
  • crying
  • pacing
  • whining
  • running
  • etc.

As Sherlock said...

"Personally, I do not have a single spark of humanity."


Technically it isn't possible for humans to flip off their humanity. But it is possible to choose not to feel.

In fact, research has indicated that individuals with extremely high IQs may not have proportionately high EQs (emotional quotient).

Not every person is the same and no event the exact replica of another. So don't worry if nothing else helps you out of a sticky situation. 

Sherlock Holmes, Abert Einstein, Tony Stark and other fictional, as well as real life individuals, have been known to be able to simply flip off their emotions. If they can, you can.

But then... always remember to flip it back on, because even Damon agreed that "If you want to be bad, be bad with a purpose otherwise you're not worth forgiving."Image result for be bad with a purpose damon

Thursday, May 11, 2017

Love Hurts: The Story of a Shoe Bite!

Shoes are bare necessities and that... is a fact of life (ahem).


For any other half-crazed shopaholic young woman out there, it makes perfect sense to buy shoes almost every month and probably splurge a few times in between as well.

Why we love them:

They support you like no other. 

They always let you watch your step.

They never let your feet touch the ground.

How can you not love any object that actually allows you to achieve all these almost impossible tasks?
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How they repay us:

Bought a new shoe recently?

Tried it on? Well, good for you. You know the money was well spent. 

But then again... what happens when you forget that the shoe is new even though it's practically your favourite pair now? 

For all the love and care you show to your shoes, it's unfair to not receive such love and affection from them during the first few days of your relationship.



It's gonna hurt and you know it:

Each and every one of my readers out there; you must remember those moments complaining about the nasty shoe bite your new pair of lovers have given you?

It isn't fair. It isn't playing by the rules. And most of all, it isn't exactly what you'd signed up for when you saw that pair of shining, sleek new shoes in the store.

It hurts to be hurt by what you love with such passion. And "precaution is better than cure" becomes the anthem of your life.

That is the reason we always make it a point to carry bandaids around...just in case. (No? Ok maybe just me)


Luckily, it gets better:

Even after all that hurt and dejection, as with every other problematic situation, your shoes do start loving you back at some point.

They fit perfectly already. After the initial few days, you don't even face much problem strutting around in them.


After all, if it weren't for constant, dedicated, unconditional and undying love... where would we be?

Saturday, May 6, 2017

8 Things You Can Only Do With Your Closest Friends

Summers are lazy, winters are sleepy and rainy days too risky. You will never get used to the tropical climate in India and the afternoon showers just before the monsoons will drive you crazy at times.

For times like these and for the sake of your sanity, if you are almost in your twenties and still living with your parents just like I am... here are 10 weird things you could do with a friend, just because you can:

1. A hunting you can go:

  • Go food stall hunting
  • Go ice cream parlour hunting
  • Go hunting for the next best place you could double date at
  • Better ...go hunting for inspiration to get up and go elsewhere
There is no end to the kind of exploring you can do, when you have a friend with you. It becomes easier to handle windy roads and unknown crowds, new places and exciting tours.

2. Nap:

There are times when you just want to be alone, but do not want to feel lonely. Weird, I know... but it happens and you know it.

So here's what you can do...
Knock on a friend's door, barge into their room, punch a pillow and just go to sleep. Here's why...
  • Your friend is used to this kind of behaviour from you
  • What's more...it is expected of you by him/her
  • It's more comfortable to know that you'll have food ready when you wake up with a cool drink too ( because Indians are so hospitable)
  • Also your friend knows there's something you need to talk about and is going to be there, just because.

3. Make plans for a movie on an Impulse:

They can't say no. You'll just drag them to some movie hall and make them sit with you throughout it... and they know it.

You get to see the movie with someone you actually like and they get to whine about it till your ears hurt and feel numb. Win-win situation all-in-all.

4. Shopping Spree:

Face it... shopping on your own is never as much fun as shopping with a friend. You guys are going to
  •  try out the most hilarious outfits
  • click crazy changing room pictures that you only share with each other and have promised to take to your grave with you
  • successfully trial and eventually find the pair of jeans that is just right practically everywhere
  • and last but not least... help each other carry your plunder with pleasure.


5. Solve the problem gnawing at your feet:

Talking things out with someone close to you is always a good idea. Nothing good comes out of stewing you head over the same problem a million times. 

So pick up your behind and step into your friend's place to have that conversation about that one thing (usually, a ton of other things too) that is/are bothering you. 

You may be surprised by how understanding your friend can be and may even be able to help him/her in some problem they are stuck with too.

6. Just do it:

Remember that rock climbing expedition you wanted to go on? Or the trip to Manali you have postponing since forever? Or the new haircut you are simply dying to try out but cannot gather the guts to?

Well pick a gutsy friend who you know will be able to talk you into these or even better, accompany you in these or do them along with you and just "do it".



7. Learn Something new:

How best do you enjoy learning something entirely new like a foreign language or picking up cords to a new song on your guitar?

Answer: One crazy friend who is ready to try anything along with you.

8. Take a Walk:

Scientists believe that a 20 minute walk at the start or the end of the day lets you think about everything from different perspectives and analyse various solutions to a single problem.

But when you have a friend along with you, it just adds more ideas into the same equation.


Never underestimate the power of true friendship. From a gloomy day to the best adventure you've ever had, it is a solid good friend who you will always have by your side. 

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Meeting Milind Soman

We met Milind Soman...

On the way back home...

In front of Flurys, Park Street...
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I've been reading stories and checking articles on Milind Soman since I was 12. 

To actually meet him out of the blue was something I'd never have been able to prepare for...

So as a posse of girls from Loreto walked back towards the metro from an inter-collegiate fest...who do we "bump" into, but Milind Soman, accompanied by a few of his people!

One of us recognized him...

Pragya spun around, disrupting her phone call with a slight movement and whispered "Isn't that Milind Soman?"

Now that's not a question you are asked everyday, is it?

Me being me, I tripped over (again) in my hurry to confirm her observations. And there he was, standing on the steps to Flurys, speaking to his PA about the Pinkathon.
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He looks so much better in Real Life:

Dressed in a casual black tee and jeans, with his signature salt and pepper hair, he had his hands in his pockets and we just stood there...for sometime...taking it all in...

Where we speak to him...

After a few nudges and an exchange of hurried whispers that went something like this... "shall we speak to him?", "can we speak to him?", "are those actual body gaurds beside him?"... around 5 of us approached his guards asking, "Can we speak to Mr. Soman????"

They just said, "You can try..."

There was no stopping us after that. The conversation basically consisted of him inviting our college to the Pinkathon and Pragya and a few others conversing with him and his PA (and with me simply standing and staring...).
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He shook hands with us and was on his way, before we fully realized, what had just happened. And thus...there were around 13 girls in the middle of the sidewalk squealing with excitement (including a little jumping up and down) in no time. 

We eventually calmed down...of course...maybe...

The Simple Supermodel

What touched me most about this man was his down-to-earth attitude and his belief in a cause that has shaken this decade. His actions and past achievements have set him way above the league of ordinary men. He is inspiration and motivation personified.
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Meeting Milind Soman... is something I hadn't bargained for, this soon. Your stories on Milind Soman and how he affected you, even in the slightest way possible, are welcome in the comment box below :)

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Watching Logan: A Rainy Day Adventure

Bunking classes to watch a movie isn't your usual kind of day if you're studying here, at Loreto. You need insider knowledge, tracking skills, a lot of guts and a crazy group of people to actually consider it.

After a morning of practically no classes, sleep inducing guest speeches and first day summer showers, 5 of us decided to simply "bunk it". We were all for staying in and taking selfies till the bell rang to announce the end of the day... until someone suggested we go watch "LOGAN".
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You see, among a gang of girls with the ultimate Hugh Jackman fans, such a suggestion cannot really be put down...
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It was five to one on our watches...break ended at one. There wasn't much time to think, plan or even run. You see, in our college, bunking is a serious issue. And why wouldn't it be when even your Principal knows each and every student's name by heart. (Scary, I know.)

It was pouring outside and none of us brainiacs had an umbrella on us. We were actually in the girl's washroom checking show timings to see if we could make it, at 12:57.
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 Mrigakshi and I were on our phones, while Anisha kept a vigilant look out for our department's HOD. Aditi and Oindrila were extremely helpful as they flailed their hands and bit their nails or kept on saying "HURRY UP!".
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There was no way we could move out after 1:00pm because by then our professor would arrive and moving out wouldn't really be an option any more. While I was caught up speculating likely consequences of missing important classes (like the typical Indian student that I am), Mrigakshi proudly announced that there was a show at "Nandan" at 1:30pm. Without another thought, the 5 of us started rushing down the stairs towards the backgate after some debate regarding which set of stairs to use. (We were dodging classes all the while to avoid bumping into our own professor). 

Without umbrellas, clad in ethnic outfits (Women's day after all...), slipping on the wet cement, we somehow made it to the backgate in the rain. And then...I dropped my spectacles...in the drain. (Yep, I'm too clumsy for words and I know it.) Needless to say, Anisha made her debut comment... "Sanchari pick it up, or its gonna literally go down the drain". Saving you the gory details of how I retrieved my specs from the stupid drain, I'm just going to move on...
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So we reach the ATM (because our society isn't really as cashless as the government would like it to be) and wonder of wonders....find 3 shut in a row. At this point, we were totally drenched and there was no turning back. At last we found an ATM which for a change was in perfect working order. Meeting at the bus stand with the others, Anisha and Oindrila started to feel queasy about the plans. 
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Literally forcing them along, Mrigakshi was equally determined to watch the film. On the bus, we broke out laughing, for this was one of the craziest days ever...with me and my guttery spectacles (stowed safely in my bag) Mrigakshi's hair looking like a puffy cloud, Oindrila and Anisha being wet to the core and Aditi scolding the bus conductor for some ridiculous reason. The other passengers on the bus immediately assessed our situation (for we aren't very soft-spoken in public, or anywhere for that matter) and were pretty amused by it all.
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On reaching our destination (exactly 5 minutes before the show), we ran towards the gates, leaving the shelter that our creaky old bus had offered before. We did get our tickets and then moved in, but not before Aditi wringing the water out of our dupattas (because she is the most muscular among us....pun intended). Anisha complained all the way up there, how she and all of us were gonna catch a cold before "Interval" came. 

And there we were, at 1:30 in the afternoon, watching "Logan", while we shivered from head to toe, totally drenched, with our hair plastered to our faces, simply functioning on adrenaline. Let me just inform you guys that Aditi or Anisha for that matter, aren't really patient people and as you all would agree, when a group of people go to a movie together, there's going to be trouble. Anisha kept on blurting out spoilers, till I threatened to punch her face (which made the guys on my right snicker into oblivion) and Aditi and Oindrila kind of bursted out laughing during a few of the intense scenes. 
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Mrigakshi was an angel...she simply started checking her messages whenever she got bored. 

All in all, we weren't very impressed with watching Logan get thrashed around for the first half of the movie. But the second half was quite something, with the father-daughter duo battling away. I loved the idea of Logan finally having an idea what being a parent feels like and whenever his daughter behaved like him...his expressions were priceless.
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 The same anger, same claws coming out whenever frustrated, same wild beast fighting skills (if not better) and the same argumentative tantrums. 


The demise of Wolverine isn't something we really looked forward to. Yet, we were comforted knowing that this wasn't really the end of the road. We still had his daughter growing up, to look forward to. I for one, was spectacularly impressed with Logan's girl. To be frank, being trained like a human killing machine from the start, made her a better fighter than Wolverine himself. 
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Her Spanish tantrums and accent were cute in a way only she could pull off. I look forward to go through similar pains to watching this new little character again, in the movie halls.
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Until next time...



Friday, February 17, 2017

Did She Win, Or Did I?


From the first time we met
It was a battle
She wouldn’t give in
And I wouldn’t let go
Days passed on
And years went by
The battle went on
And on for long

For nothing was at stake
Save for our own pride
It wasn’t just the thrill
Nor was it the prize
It was just us
Blinded by petty lies

We didn’t know
For what we fought
All we cared
Was who came first
And so the battle carried on
For days together
And years together

The battle was won
But the question remained
For all the pain
And all we endured
Did she win?
Or did I?

Though days had passed
And years gone by
We wondered together

Was it truly just us?
Or was it our pride?

What surprised us all,
(For we were surprised)
Is that after all those days
And years gone by,
We had not gained a thing
But each other’s side

Though the battle had been won
We did not care for loss
For enemies who had long since withered,
We became the closest of friends
What would you say then if I’d asked…
Did she win, or did I?

Thursday, February 9, 2017

Morning Classes

As I write in our computer class right now, fully realising that it's not something I should actually be doing, this activity seems really fun.

So I started by getting up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. Totally grumpy, very hungry and absolutely not wanting to attend class. Thus I ended up doing what people like me do in such problematic situations....I dragged my sorry ass to college, music blaring through my earphones, being able to see practically nothing (since as usual, I felt sleep deprived during the ungodly hours, early in the morning).
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Ma'am seems to have run out of projects for us to work on, so the idea was to catch up on some much delayed blogging. My partner here is literally falling asleep with her chin on her palm, elbow on the table....complete with the drool act and scary hair. Believe me... in classes like this, observing her is almost like one of the most interesting activities of all time.
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So what's going on in class can literally be explained in a few words:

  1. Girls gossipping about some year old controversy
  2. Election campaigning
  3. People playing games on their respective computers
  4. Majhong's background music playing somewhere as someone goes on scoring points
  5. My partner still drooling
  6. A few others actually working
  7. Farewell planning
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Regular 8:30 class in the morning with practically no one doing what they are supposed to. In colleges like ours these are forbidden pleasures, dished out to us poor students only occasionally. This isn't half as bad as nodding off to sleep in some theory class. Quite pleasant for a change.
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(P.S. : It took time to upload this one because Ma'am was done browsing clothes online before I could hit the "Publish" button. )
Cheers!

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Absolute Essentials for a Writer

What makes a story compelling enough for readers to crave for more content, is what a writer creates...with more ingredients than an authentic biryani!

To delve deeper into the subject I decided to ask people (specifically, writers, bloggers, content developers), what they thought, was most essential for a writer. To be honest, a few of the answers were pretty basic ...others have the potential to surprise you.

So here's a compilation of the results that were gathered from at least 10 dependable sources:-

1. Expertise in the subject:

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If you want to write about something, you'll have to thoroughly research regarding every item you want to present in an article, blog post or story. If you come up with something that is contrary to facts, always mention that you are deviating from the original story or facts. This will at least allow your more knowledgeable readers to know about your intentions and not spam your comment box with malicious content. 

2. Don't use too many jargons:

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Using big words is fine, especially when you have avid readers as followers. But, make sure you use those jargons at the right places. Do not fill in your content with lots of them, so that people get confused about what you've written. Let'd face it...even you wouldn't like re-reading the same sentence at least 6-7 times to understand what it actually says.
Also, do not use words unnecessarily, moreover when you do not know the meanings of those words. It is especially irritating to readers and you're sure to get some retorts for that.

3. Get in "the zone":

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This my dears, is the key to becoming a successful writer. When you write, do you feel that calm feeling as if it's absolutely "your space". Its difficult to break out from such a reverie. Time slows down and nothing else seems to matter, except for you and what you write. That right there, is "your zone". 
Once you're there, no matter what I'm sure you'll be able to come up with matter that may even surprise you from time to time. 

4. Know that when you write, you spin Magic:

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A painter can make magic on a canvas, but a writer's magic lies in bringing out the picture in mere words. J.K. Rowling created a world of magic through merely 7 books; Wordsworth painted thousands of pictures in out minds through the power of poetry; Shakespeare played out romances and tragedies while the works of Homer and Dante still inspire awe among even the best of us. 

5. Eyes:

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Now you'd say that is just another cliched bit of information. Well, that's what I thought first as well. Apparently there are very few famous writers who have been visually impaired since birth.
Yet, looking deeper into the matter I'd have to mention that seeing is not the same as observing. A good writer never uses her/his eyes to "just see". They observe... and that ladies and gentlemen is where the journey begins.

6. Connect with your Readers:

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Its a mutual relationship you know? I'm sure there are times when you just want to express yourself through your matter. But what makes a piece of content better than the rest, is your consideration of what your readers want. Sometimes a compromise is necessary to please the readers as well. Many a times they come up with ideas and twists that you may not even have imagined. This adds a little to your piece and definitely expands horizons. 

7. Jot it Down!:

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Yeah, it is very common for you to spin tales in your head and let them fly off into the air even as you walk down the sidewalk. There's always an easy solution. Carry a notepad or jot things down on your phone memoranda so as to not forget. No idea is absolutely useless and you know it!

8. Do not Procrastinate:

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If you have a deadline, just get it done. Yeah, I  know its not that easy. Believe me when I say that the same is a problem for me as well. Yet again, there's no point pushing work unto tomorrow because you never know what tomorrow may hold in store for you. 

9.Let lose your imagination:

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There's no point reigning in ideas so you might as well let them flow. Take out at least 15 minutes everyday to think about what you'd like to write about or what you'd want people to know. It does help. This way, you are ready to set off the moment you sit down to type.

10. Take Breaks:

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Its easy to get distracted so might as well take short breaks between writing. Staring at the screen isn't a good idea for long stretches of time. Go have some snacks or jog around before you sit to type it all down again. 

Monday, January 16, 2017

6 Confessions of a Coffeeholic

The fresh scent of coffee, wafting in the air as soon as you open the can of beans/powder is one of the great ways to start any day, in my not so humble opinion. It takes time to master the art of coffee making, especially when it comes to that particular flavor, which you prefer and that too early in the morning, every single morning.

My obsession for coffee began while I was studying in the higher grades, trying to keep up during exam times to study late into the night (because that is when we ACTUALLY study, no matter what the experts ask us to do). There are so many different kinds of beans out there, combinations of which can lead to an even interesting and sometimes not so exciting flavors. My point is, you need to try it to know it. 

I am a die hard coffee lover and here are my confessions:

1. One cup a day is never enough:


I'm sure this stands true for every coffee drinker out there. How can simply one cup of that steaming, bubbling, aromatic beverage, ever be enough? One in the morning and one the evening are absolutely compulsory to get through the day. Sometimes, maybe you get to sneak in a few more cups, which counts as a great achievement, just because.

2. Cannot function without it:


Even if it is all in the head, I really, truly, heartily believe that my coffee completes me. Without that first cup in the morning I confess I'm not a very nice person. (My friends and family can assure you about that one). It is just impossible to not fall asleep during those 8:30 classes without a warm cup of coffee before. No matter how many hours of sleep you manage to get, that steamy cup of coffee, just sitting on the counter, is the key to a successful and happy day ahead.

3. It's an excuse to drink from my favorite mug/s (not just any cup):

It is the personification of your deepest desires...your coffee mug. You see it everyday, you use it more than once in a day and you cannot for the life of you imagine drinking coffee from any other cup. It can be your favorite for more than one reason but the point is that you are simply used to seeing it, using it and storing it in that tiny little space beside the other cups that is just reserved for it. 

4. Having a collection of mugs:

I am a little obsessed with coffee mugs and happen to have a private collection of them. Raise your hand if you're in my team.

5.Coffee Coffee Everywhere:

From coffee ice cream and coffee flavored toffees to coffee flavored biscuits and that new coffee in the newest coffee place in that far corner of some street... everything and anything goes. If its about coffee, just count us in.

6. Can live without love, cannot survive without coffee:

It is one mantra worth a lifetime of experience and you know it. Coffee always loves you back and living a life without coffee is simply not an existence worth trying. You have theories and philosophies about coffee that are in any case undeniable. 
  • Coffee equals great productivity.
  • Coffee makes me happy.
  • Coffee is my companion.
  • Coffee makes me nicer.
And more....way more. Loving coffee is love in its purest and truest forms. We may take our coffee in so many different ways but all that matters, even at the end of the day after all that tiring and stressful work, is coming back to that mug of coffee. And then tomorrow comes...

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